I did it for the first time ever today.
I did Second Life Voice Sex during a sex session with a guest at Candy’s All-Inclusive Sex Hotel.
Why I have never before used Voice when having sex in Second Life.
It Would Kill the Immersion into the Virtual World
When you are in Second Life, you are in a different world. At least I tried to be in a different world. If you mix elements of real life, such as Voice, the immersion into this virtual world is not there anymore.
In other words: In Second Life I don’t want to portray the person I am in real life, but the person I created in Second Life. I want to be that virtual persona, not just play that persona.
At least to me, that is the case.
It Might Sound Artificial or Fake
I am not a loud person during sex in real. That means I would have to act a lot when doing Voice. The other person has that expectation of listening to me moan loud over Voice.
That’s just not me. I would have to act that part.
I Enjoy Sexual Roleplay
Role play involves written text. You use text to describe what you are doing and how you are doing it. You create a story basically. That doesn’t work well using Voice.
Lack Of Privacy
You need to be 100% sure, that you are alone, and that nobody will disturb you during a Second Life Voice sex session. I don’t have to explain that one, do I?
What Made Me Try Voice Sex at Least Once
I was out and about on the grid looking for new popular adult places to be added to my blog post “best second life sex places”.
I found one via search called “The Swingers Lounge Voice Sex”. As usual, upon arrival, I checked traffic and how many people are at the time in the region.
More so, I check which of those “people” are bots. I don’t want to recommend regions as being popular when most of the traffic is generated by boat, not by actual people.
You can do this by looking up the list of people in the region and opening their profiles. A typical bot has only a few groups and the region you are on is one of them.
Another pretty good hint is when they all stand together somewhere where is no action, such as a platform in the sky.
Bots are relatively easy to identify
This region does indeed use a few bots to artificially inflate its traffic numbers.
However, I did have a look around anyway. The actual lounge did not really impress me much, but next to it I saw a cinema.
It was an XXX cinema.
I thought a porn cinema would be a nice addition to the best places’ blog post. Henceforth I went to have a look.
The place has a simple design. What I liked about it, was that the walls were not plastered with advertising as they typically are at similar places. Also, the screen was rather big and the menu was easy to handle.
There was only one guy at the time sitting in there. After a while, we got into a chat, and I asked him about the place. Apparently, the cinema is frequented by Voice sex enthusiasts.
According to him, it is very popular.
The movies did was they are supposed to do: They got us aroused. Little later I found myself getting fucked by this guy on the Ruckus sofa in the back of the room.
He had his Voice on for a while. I found that indeed arousing and it did really add to the experience.
Mainly because it wasn’t as I would have expected. Nothing too overdone like you might know from porn movies and some Voice sex huds.
I did not return it there and then, but made a decision: I will try this out myself at least once. Maybe not the whole time and certainly without trying to impress with heavy moaning or shouting.
Did I mention, that’s just not me?
Voice Sex With a Guest at Candy’s
The opportunity arose rather quickly.
I return to the hotel and did something a bit different than usual. Instead of starting to attend the bar, I went straight to one of the bedrooms upstairs.
I dressed in some really sexy lingerie and sat on the bed.
I posted in the hotel group:
“I am sitting dressed in my favorite lingerie on the bed of my favorite room. I left the door open and I am curious who will come in and join me.”
It didn’t take long for a guest to show up, enter the room and close the door. It was Perl, a regular guest of the hotel. Perl is an older gentleman, who loves our services a lot. He always tips nicely as well.
(Thanks for supporting us Perl, in case you are reading this)
I did it. I opened Voice and so did he shortly after.
Actually not all the time.
Just a bit. Just did a bit of dirty talk and we heard each other breathing and groaning a little as we masturbated in real life.
Resume:
Yes, it is an option. I might do it again when the timing is right.
Questions to My Readers:
- Do you use Voices sometimes when having sex in Second Life?
- Did you at least try once? Would you do it again?
- If so how does it feel to you compared with text-based sex encounters?
In general, I like both but for different reasons. Voice can be good for describing to your partner what you are feeling as you have sex with them. Text can be good for that as well, though, and additionally is much better for describing to your partner what you are *doing* with them in-world as you have sex with them. If people are interested in telling each other the story of their sexual encounter while it\’s happening, to me text is the clear winner.
Most of my interactions with other people in SL over the years have been in text chat, so it\’s only natural that the same has been true for sex. So for me, sex has almost all been in text except with my partner. And even with her, at first, it was all in text. Increasingly our social time together had become voiced. At first, that was just for the convenience of, say, being able to stroll through an art gallery without needing to stop and type in order to talk.
Then one night as things were getting pretty hot and heavy, she typed \”let\’s switch to voice; I want to hear you cum.\” After that, except for times when privacy was less than certain at her end–I live alone; she doesn\’t–sex with her was almost always in voice as well. In fact, some of the hottest moments have been ones when she has whispered something like, \”there\’s somebody in the next room so I need to be really quiet about it, but I\’m about to cum.\” So for me at least, loud moans and shouts are very far from necessary for SL voice sex to be intensely erotic.
But that\’s really a special case and an exception in my SL experiences. She and I very much like the sound of each other\’s voices. We have fewer RL/SL barriers and have frequently spoken on the phone as well. And even with all that, the rare sessions in which we\’ve needed to stay in text for sex have been a real turn-on by being \”like old times\”–the early weeks of our courtship before we started voicing for sex. There\’s just something about text emotes during sex for which there is no substitute in voice.
That is not at all to say that voice is for sex in more \”serious\” situations and text for more casual sex. In my romantic relationship with Fox, everything has been in text, and it has never meant the slightest bit less or *been* anything less because of it. Text has so many advantages, the greatest for me being the creative latitude in creating a scene for and with each other. It really becomes a sort of cooperative sexual story-telling, and can be incredibly intimate as well as highly erotically charged. Not that such descriptive embellishments aren\’t possible in voice, but sometimes they can feel a little forced. As a result, in voice there certainly has often–though not always–been less descriptive roleplay in my experience.
So I wouldn\’t trade away the intimacy of voiced sex with my partner, but I also wouldn\’t trade all the experiences I\’ve had in text with other people. I wouldn\’t mind supplementing that interaction with voice from time to time with some people, but neither is it an urgent priority.
However, everything Ren said above can also be quite valid. If both partners happen to like the other\’s voice and accent, if they find them sexy, hearing the other person\’s laughter and gasps and \”dirty talk\” and tone of voice can give quite a boost to the erotic energy of a scene. I think I\’d still be likeliest to go with text as a general default, but I wouldn\’t generally rule out voice, either. It would depend on the situation and the person.
For instance, I think that voice could be quite helpful in sessions where one or both partners are using Lovense toys. For me, the additional factor of dealing with a toy–where not lubing isn\’t really a valid option–can diminish the ability to truly immerse into the in-world experience itself, especially a Bluetooth toy that has additional interfaces to deal with. Not needing to type can help with that.
For that reason–though not for that reason alone–I think I would like to try a session with voice and Lovense with you sometime, Caroline. I\’ve really only used my Lovense offline so far, and I think a first in-world Lovense session using voice might be beneficial in getting familiar with its in-world use. And who knows, it might turn out to be a very satisfying sexual experience as well.
But I suspect that even if we did that, we would still be likely to go back to text for most future encounters. I quite like your text emoting style, and would probably feel a fair amount of desire to return to it.
My (somewhat more than) two cents, anyway.
Zath
Hi Zath
Thanks for this very elaborate and interesting comment.
I remember our text-based interactions.
Carol
As do I. While they have been few in number so far, they have been quite memorable. 😊
Thank you for indulging my lengthy (and perhaps long-winded) comment, Carol. If you get me going on a topic about which I have some thoughts, I can get at least a fair bit gobby. I am glad you found some interest in it.
Zath
Interesting post Carol thank you for sharing! I\’ve tried voice once several years ago with someone I met regularly. It was very hot. I\’m not sure this is something I\’d pursue now but would potentially be open in the right cicumstance. I agree with a lot of the concerns you and Christina mention about the immersion. Also, for people I see regularly, what if I\’m not attracted to their voice or it gets too personal? Seems like a lot of potential downside.
Hello Greg
thanks for your first comment (ever).
You did raise an interesting point there. Lumi asked today at the hotel bar a related question:
“Does hearing somebody’s voice in Second Life, change your perception of that person?”
This in fact might be a game-changer (pun intended).
Caroline
As some already have mentioned, it depends on mood and who i am with. I am not a big roleplayer so for me i dont need that big written\”history\” to get turned on, i guess i\’m more visual.. and i must admit i do love to hear a man moan for me :-).
99% of the time when i have voice sex it\’s in private voice.
But it have happend a few times, that i have turned on voice, a few seconds in public voice, while having sex, just to tease a little 😉
Hi Lulu,
thanks for commenting.
I enjoy sometimes the use of the “Good Moaning” hud to tease. I might try with voice one day.
Caroline
Personally, I find voice a much more engaging way to communicate
I used voice early on when obtaining support on a custom avatar, from a shape maker …. things gravitated into a relationship quickly. She had a gorgeous voice, accent which I fell for instantly. Hearing a person laugh vs typing LOL has far more depth. Hearing their accent, enthusiasm, excitement in their voice is exceptionally engaging and contagious. Hearing someone become aroused, and masturbating is exceptionally sexy – I love it. Voice frees up hands from typing – lube and keyboards are definitely not a good mix.
Hello Ren,
we might try that if the situation allows it, next time to request services. 🙂
Caroline
I agree with both sides, is up to the mod, the situation, the place and your partner ♥
I enjoy Texting and Voice ^^ but of course not so loud haha.
Hello Sarah,
good to know. Are you available for guests who prefer Voice?
You also might want to consider getting a Lovense toy. The combination of Lovense and Voice gets you a lot of tips.
There are a lot of guys who want to tip you and activate your toy to hear you moan.
Caroline
I\’ve only done once while using my own voice, though I\’ve listened to partners a few other times. The one time I voiced myself was with a longtime lover in a private local, it was intimate and fun. But I\’m always worried my voice might be recognized by people I don\’t know, so I keep it to my fingers mostly.
Thanks for the read!
I don\’t like it.
My main issues with voice sex in Second Life are ones you mentioned here already:
it kills my immersion and it ruins the fantasy for me when I am confronted wtih someone\’s reality.
I prefer not to be loud and have others near me listen to me making noise over the internet. That is just a highly uncomfortable thing for me.
Christina,
that’s exactly how I felt about it.
Caroline
Agree with the article here. Whilst voice can add something and be fun, I much prefer text in SL asI find it a better RP experience.
However catch me in the right mood and voice can be a fun and interesting change
Anna,
nice that one day I caught you in the right mood LOL
Caroline