Sometimes I meet up In-World with people reading my blog. Most of the time these are noobs looking for advice about all kinds of stuff. Most of the time it’s about improving their avatar, where to get good freebies and dating tips.

About two weeks ago, I received an IM from Toni. Toni googled about sex and dates in Second life and found this blog.

Not it surprises, I rank very high on Google under the search term „Second Life Sex“ because that’s the main topic of this site anyway. I was on the Amsterdam Red Light District sim when the IM hit my inbox.

I was hoping to find some more input about the Escort scene in Second Life by continuing my little project „undercover escort girl“ hence the reason I was wearing a very sexy and provocative outfit.

Toni complimented me on the blog and ask if we could meet up eventually as he has some questions. I wasn’t busy at the time and suggested meeting up right now. So we did and Tped to one of my favorite meeting places: The Tomuli Restaurant on the Corsica Continent.

When we met, I noticed that he seemed somewhat nervous, almost shy. The fact that I still was in my escort girl outfit didn’t help much to calm him down. I asked him, what the problem is.

He answered, that he didn’t expect his favorite and well-known blogger to be such a breathtakingly beautiful woman.

I smiled and said, “you don’t have to be nervous, I am just another SL resident who happens to write a bit about stuff.

The outfit is just because I was investigating under cover the Second Life escort scene in order to continue a storyline I started some time ago”.

After a while of chatting about the mainland, skins, shapes, and ways to improve one’s overall appearance he relaxed much and came out with his real concern. He didn’t really know how it works to in Second Life to get a sex partner or even more, and how to actually “do it”.

I laughed and asked: “So you are still a virtual virgin?”. No, he wasn’t, but the one time he tried it, it wasn’t really that pleasing, so he thought there must be more to it. I explained that he probably did not have virtual sex, but just plain simple interactive pixel porn.

I explained what the difference is: “Virtual sex is far more than just hopping on a poseball and watching the animations. The latter is what I refer to as interactive pixel porn and to be honest, a real porn movie is far better than watching two-pixel dolls copulating”. I continued.

Virtual sex is when there is this special chemistry between the two participants. When you look at an avatar and you feel you want to be close to that person because she or he at least arouses you or even triggers romantic feelings for that person. When you immerse into the virtual world, when you identify with your avatar and what happens to your avatar is almost as if it would happen to you in real. It feels real, it actually is real!

Technically speaking what creates this kind of immersion is not the animations. Of course, the animations help a great deal to immerse but what really creates this kind of experience are words. Words you use to describe what you do, how you do it, and how you feel about it. Well-written and sincere emotes are the key to this.

“How do I initiate this, I mean I can’t just go and a random girl if she wants to have immersed virtual sex, right?” He inquired.

No, of course not. It’s just like in real life. Dating, flirting, talking, dancing, in other words, get to know a person you fancy and see if you click or not. They wait till the right moment to take it a step further.

He then told me, that he actually did try an escort girl in Second Life and it proved to be a disappointing experience. She did not even control the menu right and was just lame basically. I suggested getting his own sex hud and making sure he knows how to use it properly.

It’s a big turn-off if your partner feels you need to practice with her how to use your hud. It kills everything you did build up previously.

Finally, I had a cute idea. I smiled and suggested: “Hey there is a pretty beach around the corner, why don’t we go there and I show you how it actually works.”

“You can’t imagine how much I would love to do that”, he replied. The following was his first ever immerse sex experience in Second Life.

Just a little later. He wanted to know a tip on where to take a girl when you don’t have your own place yet.

I suggested a good idea might as well be one of the many hotels or motels in Second Life. So up we went, dressed and I showed him the Blue Diamond Motel.

I guess by now he knows how it works! What do you think – any other suggestions or tips for Toni?

Simply leave your advice in the comments.