How I Became a Second Life Escort Girl
I embarked on my undercover mission to investigate the escort scene in Second Life. I asked myself the question, why do men use escort girls when there are so many opportunities to have virtual sex available for free?
Hence, I decided to become an escort girl to gain first-hand experience (pun intended).
My initial approach was to try as a freelance escort girl, trying to find clients in all kinds of venues. This approach failed miserably, and I concluded (admittedly a bit preempted) that there is not much, if any, demand for escort girls.
At least not enough to make decent money for Second Life standards.
Then, I met the girls at the Magic Dream Angels. They built, ran, and promoted a classy, friendly escort club. I agreed to work with them, fully disclosing my intention to write about it on Second Life Adventures.
Everything was different then. I found out that having an attractive location and a welcoming environment is key to success in the sex business in Second Life. It does work.
Within a short period, I made around 10,000 L$, a good income compared with other jobs available in Second Life.
This experience also answered my all-important initial question: Why do men use escort girls in Second Life?
I compelled the following list based on my experience as an escort girl. It might not be complete or representative of all escort establishments.
Why Do Guys Use Second Life Escort Girls?
You need to understand the reasons those guys will hire you. Each one needs to be treated differently
Because of Availability
Sometimes men (and women, for that matter) are just horny. They are in the mood and want it there and then. Especially when they don’t have much time online, they don’t want to go through all the motions of flirting, chatting up, dancing, and seducing an „ordinary “ girl. An escort girl is available, all it takes is pay her and have fun.
Learning: Get to the point with this type of customer. Don’t beat around the bushes. When finished, make sure you leave again. Please don’t make him feel he is obliged to do all the after-sex-cuddling.
Because They want Quality Virtual Sex
At most of the free sex places, there is no such thing as quality role-play. All you can do is hop on a poseball and watch two avatars doing pixel sex – not everybody´s cup of tea, as it does not „feel“ like having sex. It’s just cheap pixel porn.
A good escort girl knows what is essential: to give the client the impression of actually having sex, how to turn him on, and arouse him in real to the point of him having bliss, excitement, and even an orgasm in real.
Not all escort girls are that good. Many take the money and get it done as quickly as possible with the least possible effort – a disappointing experience for the client and a “never-come-back-client” for the escort girl – understandably.
Learning: This type of customer is very demanding. Make sure you do your homework. Learn how to create descriptive and erotic emotes.
Because Their Second Life Girlfriends Are Not Into Virtual Sex
Some clients do have a SL partner. That sounds weird at first, but it isn’t at all. I have had clients in a stable relationship over the years, but their partners are not much into virtual sex.
Those men still love their girlfriends and have no intention to break up the relationship, but for the sexual part, they go to a discrete escort girl – no strings, no commitment, no drama.
Using an escort service does not feel like cheating on their girlfriend to them, as would be having an affair or chatting up girls at the usual date & dance places.
Discretion is of utmost importance.
This type of customer needs to trust you on that. Never speak about your customers to others. never ask questions about his partner, girlfriend or his Second Life home. Oh,and never visit his home, business or places he frequents.
Because They Can Easily Afford it
Some clients make serious money in Second Life (for Second Life standards). They spend a lot of time in Second Life with their business. Creating things, customer support, promotion—such things take up time, and there is not much In-World time left to go dating.
Those guys go to a club for some uncomplicated fun, and as they can easily afford paying or tipping an Escort girl, they don´t mind letting us participate in their Second Life success.
Those are fun to be with and probably your best source of income. You will see those at Candy’s spending tons of money for beers and tips.
Don’t pressure them, they will tell you what they want and when they want it. Many times it’s not sex, but a bit of fun entertainment.
To Support The Location
People enjoy being a part of something.
Several regular clients book us to support the idea of a welcoming, classy club. A place where people are greeted as friends, where we have fun at parties, and where the girls are not greedy bitches but enjoyable company.
Those clients don´t even see it as paying for sex, they see it as financial support to a place they like, people they enjoy being with and sex is an added, yet well appreciated bonus.
Those are the best clients because they treat us well, come regularly, and don´t complain about prices. We even have one guy with a “flat rate.”
He finances a big part of the tier fees. With one monthly payment, he can have fun with us as often as he likes (or as often as he can)—a true win-win situation and a “friend of the house.”
This type of customer is not just your client. He is your friend. Make sure he always feels welcome at your place. Do not insist on booking you. Wait until he asks for it.
He will tip you anyway, even without having sex with you.
To Learn How to Do it Properly
Yes, that happens too.
I got booked to teach how to have sex in Second Life – properly. These men want to be well prepared before meeting a regular girl (or even their Second Life partner) before taking a girl to bed, ready to impress and not spoil it.
This is an excellent reason to use an escort girls’ service: Lessons in Love. I think all Noobs should at least once do that if only they could afford it.
Make sure you know the ropes yourself. Learn how to explain technical things in a way he understands. That includes changing poses, choosing poses, emoting, adjusting poses, and connecting Lovense.
He came to learn something, if that leads to sex with you even better.
Because They Want to Try Something Different
Threesomes, lesbian shows, BDSM, rape scenarios, gang bangs, Master/slave games and so on. Whatever kink it is, one might fancy, it’s safe to try with an escort girl. Escorts get paid to do it and to shut up about it. However, this does not happen often. Most clients want regular sex.
Never accept that type of customer if you are not into those kinks. Send him to a colleague who knows how to do it.
Because They Like Me
I did have clients who would not go to other escort girls. They fancy me or even have a little crush on me. They don’t mind supporting me with some money to be with me.
Spend some time with this type of customer. Become a friend with benefits, listen to him, and show interest in his thoughts, problems, and desires. This is your most loyal customer, and he will surprise you with lovely gifts.
In Conclusion
People use escort girls in Second Life for similar reasons to those who use them in real life.
I also met some guys who would refuse categorically to have sex with an escort girl. No, it’s not the fear of catching a virus. In my experience, you can categorize those anti-paid-sex guys into four categories.
People Who Do Not Use Second Life Escort Services
I met guys who would refuse categorically to have sex with an escort girl. No, it’s not the fear of catching a virus. In my experience, you can categorize those anti-paid-sex guys into four categories.
If you meet any of those, don’t waste time trying to sell yourself. Just call it a day and try elsewhere.
The Broke
He doesn’t have SL money, and he admits it. There’s no problem with that; some people simply have chosen not to buy Linden Dollars and do not make money in the Real World either.
I can respect that even so, I believe someone who refuses to take part in the Second Life economy is not a Second Life resident. I call them SL-tourists. However, there are some false broke as well. They pretend to be broke in the hope of getting a free pity fuck – how lame is that?
The Macho
He is so awesome, so good-looking, and in his perception of himself, he is such a desirable man that he almost believes he should be the one who is supposed to get paid. Using escort services would potentially make his penis shrink.
The Romantic
He is not looking for sex. He is looking for love. He wants to be the prince on a white horse who rescues the poor escort girl from her miserable life and be with her in digital eternity. The movie “Pretty Woman” inspires him, and his attempts to “rescue” the girl are so persistent that it almost feels like being stalked.
I am sure they missed the part in Pretty Woman when Richard Gere gave Julia Roberts 3.000 USD for escorting him for a week and a credit card to go shopping on Rodeo Drive. Hey, you want to rescue me? Give me 3.000 L$, and let’s go shopping at Franks Galleria.
Be careful. This type is a potential stalker.
The Moralist
It’s wrong to be a prostitute. We will all burn in hell for having abused the desires, emotions, and weaknesses of men to get their money.
I realize this is a bit of an old post, but was a very good read, particularly because it takes you into the mind of the SL escorts to some extent. I myself was attracted to the SL world as it allows me to be a bit more uninhibited and allows more of my playful personality to show. I\’m extremely reserved in RL so this is a great escape for me.
I initially got into SL for the exploration side of things, TPing to different areas and seeing all the sights SL had to offer. Recently I have started visiting clubs and interacting with the dancers there. While there is a certain attraction to the playful nature of the girls, we also have enjoyable \”vanilla\” conversations as well, and at least for me, an enjoyment of their company.
The one thing that I try to remember is that the girls are there to do a job, and act in the best way possible to succeed at their job. Which then makes me wonder about the authenticity of our conversations at times. I find myself wondering whether they are just trying to reel me in, especially when the conversations turn more sexual in nature (which of course, I have no objections).
As an SL escort yourself, I would like your perspective. Are people like me annoying for you or the other girls? I do tip accordingly when I visit, but I wonder if it would be best to just hurry and do the deed so you can maximize the client volume.
JK,
sorry for delaying a response. Your post has been in the spam folder for some reason.
As far as I am concerned, there is no need to beat around the bush. I get booked for sex and get paid by the hour. Nothing wrong with some banter or after-talks though, but I prefer getting down to business.
But that is just me. Strippers might see this differently. They dance, strip and get tips. Some of them even prefer that as opposed to “do the deed”. In addition, not all strippers actually offer “the deed”.
Escorts are naughty and They are more than happy to take charge. Which was just perfect for everyone. I simply relaxed and had a great time. That is the only reason why men use an escort girls in second life.
Nice post agree with lots of point you have mentioned in the post.
An escort stay a prostitute ..for rich men !! and its really bad in sl that money comes to rot sex like in the real world…
No need money for sex! sex is at first a sharing pleasure , reciprocity bet ween 2 persons …and no need money for that !
Yonnro
I am actually having fun being a prostitude. Believe it or not.
It s actually arousing to be used for pleasure and to serve for money, making my clients happy.
Always has been some kind of fantasie for me.
Carol
I know this is an old post, But, I just wanted to throw in my two cents worth of linden in. I don’t hire escorts, one, for the reason is I like the chase/hunt or whatever you call it, and paying for it right off the bat for instant sex is not really fun for me. Two, for one of the reasons mentioned above about it being an turn off if you are not sure your partner is into it.
Yes I know a lot of escorts that do it just for the linden, it is after all just a job and they would be talking to me while they are with their client. So that uncertainty being there is a major turnoff for myself. BUT….I will spend a lot of linden on strippers, just because I find that fun….as long as the girl is getting into it. I do have one rule though, if you don’t say anything to me, you don’t get my linden lol. Overall though, I do like the post
Hello Michael,
thanks for your post, even on an old article.
It is actually easy to see or feel if the escort is “into it”. The good ones actually use detailed and descriptive emotes to turn you on. Not emotes on short cuts, but responding to your actions, emotes and words. Trust me it is almost impossible to actually make the client happy (good enough for him to come back for more) and having a chat with somebody else at the same time.
But most importantly: Its hardly ever just a job. It is a fantasy for most girls. Being used for money simply turns them on. That is why I am enjoying it actually. In fact, “regular” sex in SL doesn’t do it for me anymore after this experience. There are exceptions though.
I am taking 2.000 L$ for up to an hour. Lets face it, we are talking about less then the cost you had if you were inviting me for a drink in real life.
Maybe you should give it a try, at least once 😉
Carol
I use SL escorts for a combination of reasons such as “i want it now” and time constraints. But there is another reason. I had a wonderful SL relationship at one time, however, when it ended that was the worst feeling ever. I did not want that feeling coming from this game ever again, not to mention I am engaged in real life now. So instead i do not get attached and just use working girls instead of getting involved with anyone again.
Hello
hence when you have a “i want it now” moment again, give me a call.
Carol
I think people gets too serious nowadays, judging what you do or not, even in the virtual world. Everyone have a dream, a fantasy, something unreachable within the real world due to its morality, duties and consequences, and SL provides that, no guilt, no responsibilities and no consequences.
You do what you want to do in deep, because you’re free.
That is very true actually!
Carol
Hi Carol, great article – nice insight and summary! How much does it cost to be a flatrate supporter and friend of the house? 🙂 During your escort journey you have probably encountered a lot of interesting people and stories. The only time I have ever met an escort was when my boss (of a very small startup company many years ago) hired one to play secretary when a big client was coming in to visit the office lol
Did you ever have lonely clients who were just seeking someone to chat with, or were looking for a friend or sort of digital penpal? Did you ever provide any, let’s say “counseling” or consulting services to people in crisis or distress who were not necessarily looking for sexual encounters? I feel like both types of services may share a few things in common – there’s probably not that much of a gap between the one or other service.
I may not be ready to get back to SL myself, but I absolutely enjoy reading your blog and the food for thought you provide. I like the way you think and write, particularly the distinction you made between cheap pixel porn and a deeper experience that starts in one’s mind.
I couldn’t agree more. No doubt infinitely more exciting than just watching or playing with some toys. But isn’t it also more dangerous to open yourself up emotionally, even when it happens in a protected virtual environment? I found myself quite vulnerable when I allowed an emotional bond with someone and allow myself to love and desire a person, thing or moment, regardless of it being in real or a virtual life. And with this I was also looking to trust this person. As long as it’s just a superficial acquaintance I never thought much about trust. But if feelings of friendship, love and sexuality were involved, trust (or lack thereof) often became a huge obstacle that made me unable to let myself go.
Interestingly, when I played with SL before I found this to be true even (and especially!) in this virtual world with virtual people. It’s funny because you’d think there’s no safer environment to play in and let oneself go. But I trusted people even less than in real life. I had a bit of a hard time with it. Did you ever feel vulnerable or distrusting when you first started out? Obviously you’re doing pretty well otherwise you wouldn’t have kept up multiple lives for so many years and turned it into a business. I’m mostly just wondering if it’s a normal path for a noob in SL and something that gets better over time after learning how to walk, or just me being paranoid. I suppose if I treated the environment like a gaming environment and all actors like characters in a game – this would probably reduce the gravity of social and philosophical questions and implications, but then it would be just that, a video game, and no longer be real at all.
Oh my, lots of questions, probably tl;dr, but anyway, keep on blogging! I look forward to reading more about your journeys and adventures 🙂
Hi Kuranes
I know your post is 9 month old and I overlooked this totally. Having said that, the original post is from November 2014, hence the reason.
Did I feel distrusted or vulnerable when I just started? No, I don’t think so. I started with my first avatar in 2007 when it was still all new and exciting. I met somebody on orientation island back then. We learned all the stuff together and made our first steps in Second Life togehter.
This even evolved into a love story. Obviously didn’t last. I think she isn’t even part of Second Life anymore.
Is it a normal path for a noob? I don’t know actually. I guess everybody makes his own experiences in that matter. But yes, everbody kinda grows in Second Life into whatever virtual life.
We mature.
Kisses
Carol
LMAO for that last one Caroline. Thank you for this nice B-Day present. You really caught my attention. I would just like to add the “silly romantic”, who does not wish to save any damsel in distress, but feels sex is the climax of love, not a means by itself, and who accepts others as they are as he likes to be accepted, to your list of men who do not pay for sex or slex. As you wrote in another entry, “I wanted to have a hand” at it (pun also intended), but the hand tires, the heart suffers, and the flesh numbs. I’ve had my share of slex and, as you mention, it is very fulfilling. 😉
I love what you are doing. TY for the invite
Gekko
May I know did you do voice chat with he partner while doing sex?
I’m asking that because I have sex with many girls for free in SL. But non of them like to use voice chat. So if there are some escorts who like to use voice chat to impress me, I will pay enough.
I think this might be another major reason to use escorts.
Yes, I’m just one month in SL.
Yaso
I normally do not use voice. Its basically a mixture between text chat and sex animations. Working as an escort girl is “living” a fantasy, one would probably never do in real life. Using voice would make it too much real life hence instead of “playing” to be a prostitute, it would be too real, too much actually being a RL sex service. Does that make sense?
However, if you pay enough real money I might actually consider it!
Carol
For any person male or female of any race or disability to see themselves as victims is a self fulfilling prophecy.” Love it! You sound like an awesome lady and your husband sounds like an amazing man!! I do hope our paths cross one day!
Great post, I was surprised to find escorts in world as well.
I would like to add to the ant-paid-sex list:
E: Because the thought that the other person isn’t enjoying it, just putting on a show because you paid them to, is an instant turn off.
You are assuming too much. Of course I can’t speak for all SL escorts, but I most certainly do enjoy my work. I enjoy writing naughty prose and I enjoy knowing that I’m helping someone feel good and get off. I like being there to help people fulfill fantasies they might not want to bring up with regular acquaintances. If an escort doesn’t enjoy any of these things, I don’t think they’ll be able to do their work very well.
Candy
I totally agree!
Carol
I find this is all hard because I’m mute in real life but perfectly healthy. Anyway words aren’t part of my world but I still enjoy everything else.
Selena
I hope so!
This part I dont understand, communication in Second Life is mostly based on text chat. So this I would assume is an advantage for you, as you do not actually need your voice to be able to communicate just like everybody else in SL.
Do I miss something?
Carol
Thank you for your awesome post about Second Life escorts. I have worked at a wonderful club for over three years, and am always hearing from people who put down SL escorts. We do serve a need, otherwise we would be very lonely and broke, and I am neither! I would mention as well that a lot if my clients are disabled in some way, and hiring an escort fills needs they cannot fulfill in RL. Also, for those out on the extremes of kinkiness, it can be very difficult to find someone who can both do a quality roleplay and fit into their fantasy world. As professional providers, we can do both. I love your blog, keep up the great work!
Thanks Mandy
True, I met two guys already who are disabled in real life and are for that very reason in Second Life. For the the word “second life” has a literal meaning.
Carol